How One Person Starts to Like Another

One person will not naturally like all other types of people. This is because people are influenced by various factors, such as caste, religion, sex, region, language, financial status, colour, appearance, etc. In today’s globalized world, people have to hide their dissatisfaction when dealing with others. They exercise a great deal of control over their natural instincts when using behavioural strategies such as forgiving, showing respect, or smiling innocently, as they have realized that this is essential to sustain their family life and socio-economic status. They know that the more selflessness and compassion they show, the more they will be recognized by society. This is one of the superior qualities that humans have.

People’s preferences are also influenced by social and cultural aspects and intellectual and artistic talents. You will develop a special liking for a person if his/her religious and caste orientation, beliefs, and outlook on life match those of yours. You will be close to those who stood by you and have influenced you right from childhood and shared the same experiences with you. Moreover, you will associate with those who have the same goals as you and contribute to your existence and security. All these factors have an impact on your biological makeup. Each person develops a liking for another person based on their thoughts and beliefs. This includes social and cultural factors that have influenced them from their childhood. Then there are those idealized beauty concepts as well!

Research scientists have already found out the reasons why people like each other. They employed the fMRI scanning technique to understand changes that happened to the bodies and minds of people when they were deeply in love with one another.

The anatomy of a friendly relationship

A few hormones are involved in the development of a friendly relationship between two people. Oxytocin and vasopressin, hormones produced in some parts of the hypothalamus, are responsible for this. We feel attracted to some people and start developing a liking for them in a short span of time, and we yearn to be with them. The oxytocin hormone produced in our brain is responsible for this. The higher the production of oxytocin, the stronger will be the attraction and the development of a friendly relationship. If we feel uninterested when speaking to or interacting with someone, the oxytocin production in our brain will be low. We will also try to avoid further interaction with the same person in the future.

Oxytocin is produced by the brain of a breastfeeding mother. It is the production of this hormone that builds the relationship between a mother and her child. That’s why the mother hugs and caresses her child. As such, oxytocin is the hormone that helps sustain a healthy friendship and a person’s sexual interest.

The reason why you touch or embrace a person is because of oxytocin. Studies have shown that oxytocin level was very high in the bodies of people whenever who engaged in harmonious interaction, bonded well with each other, and reinforced their love.

Mutual attraction and pheromones

In the animal world, scents (pheromones) play an important role. Animals recognize their mates by their scents. In the case of some animals, males sniff the sex organs of the females to find out if they can mate. Some creatures identify their boundaries and regions with the help of scents.

Even in the case of humans, scents produced by the body play an important role in the development of personal relationships. In our life, individuals who have different scents, circumstances, and places all influence the mental communications that keep happening in a variety of ways.

The scent that emanates from an individual whom we like influences us emotionally through the experiences we have had with that individual

Two types of pheromones produced by the human body have been identified. The pheromone estratetraenol is present in the urine of females. It has also been found that its production increases during ovulation. On the other hand, the pheromone present in the sweat of males is androstadienone.

A fat-free/healthy body, a beautiful face, and a good figure and height are always attractive features. Healthy and enthusiastic people can influence more people. Nature always selects only the most appropriate and the best. The biological factor influences attraction is that healthy people have a better ability to procreate. It is a proven fact that pheromones produced by healthy people have an impact on sexual attraction.

How Does One Fall in Love

When one person meets another person who conforms to his/her ideology and feels sexually attracted to him/her, it is nothing but love. During this time, the person’s brain levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine and hormone testosterone increase. This encourages the person to behave in such a way as to attract the other person. Actually, it is the pheromone oxytocin that contributes to the development of behavioural strategies to enable a deep love relationship with the chosen person. You will be deeply in love with a person when you have a great friendship and strong sexual attraction to that person. However, you will lose your sexual attraction to a person when the neurotransmitter serotonin flows to the medial preoptic area in your hypothalamus. That’s how the feeling of love ends.

People Who Love People

Some people are naturally capable of quickly understanding others’ viewpoints, cooperating with them, and getting along well with others. They will even have the courage to reveal everything about themselves. They are people who empathize with others, meaning they have the ability to understand and share others’ feelings. Studies have shown that it is the part of the brain called the anterior insular cortex that creates the feeling of empathy in a person.

FMRI scans have revealed that the functioning of the anterior insular cortex part of the brain of autistic individuals is not as effective as in normal people. Those who are highly empathetic – people who are not driven by recognition or fame when it comes to helping others and selflessly cooperating with others – can easily establish long-lasting friendships.

What Should We Do to Make Our Behaviour Attractive

When working with another person, your facial expressions and the words you use have an important role to play. Your facial expression changes depending on your thoughts. A person who is talking can sense whether the listener likes his/her speech from his/her facial expressions and modify his/her talk.

Words connect us with other people. You can gain others’ respect through words. When you use words carelessly or under the influence of emotions, it creates cracks in friendships.

Our words and facial expressions reveal what we actually are. Our thoughts, perspectives, attitudes, and purposes come out through our words however hard we try to hide them. Certain words we say without thinking, observing silence at times, our facial expressions, movement of our eyes, and our smile all can expose our intentions.

The first step towards making your speech attractive is to talk sensibly. Those who unnecessarily blame or criticize others are actually trying to hide their own inferiority complex. A person who is making fun of others is actually ridiculing himself/herself.

Interrupting a person when he/she is talking or staring directly into a speaker’s eyes is not right. Instead, you should look at him/her with respect.

Critically evaluating the words and expressions of others can hamper the smooth advancement of relationships.

In communication, body language plays an important role. The emotional feeling we convey through words comes in second place. The next important aspect is the meaning of the words we use.

Even if a person has a pleasant personality and courageous demeanour, everyone may not like him. We may hate someone without any obvious or specific reasons and even feel disturbed for the sole reason that we spoke to him/her. This is absolutely a personal matter as far as an individual is concerned. Moreover, we may feel disgusted and even want to alienate ourselves from a person with whom we have had a really bad experience or one who resembles and displays the mannerisms of an overbearing person in our life. However, we always strive to behave decently even with people whom we do not like.

Prasad Amore